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The Details of Dating in the 21st
Century For Single Dads
Dating before the dawn of the Internet was easier and far
less complicated. You would meet someone, perhaps at a party, perhaps a friend
of a friend, even sometimes at a bar. You chat, exchange phone numbers (real
ones, hopefully), go on a date, continue dating if all went well, meet the
parents, move in together, and live happily ever after.
However, the world has changed, and individuals who are just
getting back into the dating life, people such as single dads trying to balance
their new freedom with the demands of parenthood, need to wake up to this new
reality or be left home alone, watching old movies and eating ice cream by
The Internet Allows Us to Snoop on Our Dates
The Internet has changed the dating world. In some ways it has made dating easier and
safer. A friend of mine, after her divorce, began dating like a college kid
newly freed from the clutches of her curfew and her father’s watchful eyes.
But, before she went out on a second date, and there were plenty of those, she
would do a little investigative work. She perused the Internet for any and all
information – criminal records, divorce, business, Facebook, Twitter – you name
it, and even went to the courthouse to look up divorces, civil cases, and
criminal matters. She felt just a bit safer going out on a second date knowing
that no negative information existed on the guy.
Back in the dark ages of dating, before everyone had a
desktop computer and now a smart phone, you would go on a date, have a
conversation, and then you had to pick either A): I believe what he/she says,
or B): I don’t believe what he or she says. Now, you listen politely and
closely, nod a few times, ask a few questions, and then go home at the end of
the date and start Googling away!
The Internet has allowed us to merge our ever-present desire
to know with the ability to uncover details on almost everyone.
Googling is the New Normal Conversation
Though conversation will most likely never be completely
replaced on a date, the amount of conversation has certainly decreased.
Googling someone not only occurs after the date, it also happens during the
date. Now, many dates include the questions: “What’s your website?” Are you on
Facebook?” What’s your Twitter handle?”
Why speak with each other when you can easily look each
other up on Facebook? You can find out more about someone just casually
browsing their Facebook page than you can in three hours of conversation.
The New Rules of Dating
If you are seeking the definite text of the new rules of
dating, you won’t find it here. If you are under thirty, you probably already
understand these rules. However, if you are just getting back into the dating
game after a prolonged absence and divorce, you might want to ask a teenager of
do some of your own investigative work.
long do you wait after a date to text?
long do you wait to text back?
you be the first one to send a text after the date?
- Do you
still use the phone?
do you do if you find out any negative information?
people really send pictures of their junk while dating?
If you are just getting back into the dating game, take a
few moments to understand that the rules have changed. If you can embrace these
changes, and learn how to date in the 21st century, you’ll set
yourself up for great success!
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