Single Parent Dating from a Man’s perspective. This month, a single woman wants to know how to date a Divorced Dad and how long should she wait for him to overcome post-divorce guilt. Single Parent Dating Advice for Women on SingleDad
Single Parent Dating Advice: How To Date a
SingleDad wants to help you
understand Single Parent Dating from a Man’s perspective. This month, a single
woman wants to know how to date a Divorced Dad and how long should she wait for
him to overcome post-divorce guilt. Single Parent Dating Advice for
Women on SingleDad
Dear Ask SingleDad,
My name is Rachel and I am a
33- year old woman living in Napa, California. I met a Divorced Dad about a
year ago and I am completely in love with this man. I don’t know if I can call
him my boyfriend, however, we have been dating "on and off" for the past 6
months. It seems like when I am with him, I am the most important person in the
world to him. He is 43- years old and has a 6-year old son who he loves very
much. His divorce was ugly, complicated and he just received his "final papers"
this past month. He is very emotional about this event and has told me many
times that he has "baggage" and that I should walk away from him before I
invest any more time with us.
Dating a Divorced Dad is
different in many ways and I am trying to gauge my heart, time and patience in
this relationship. I have had a couple long term relationships in my past, but
have never married and have no kids of my own. I have several questions that I
want to ask to see if you or some of your members can help me understand more
about the road in front of me:
How long should I wait to see if
this man can love again?
Does his past
divorce guilt follow him forever?
What are the signs that I should
look for to see that he is not ready for love
You have quite a few thoughts
on your mind; let me see if I can offer you a Divorced Dad’s perspective on
some of the topics you have mentioned.
First off, it appears that
the qualities you seek in a man are ones that involve emotional maturity and
stability which many times are the qualities you will find when dating a
divorced dad. However, with all qualities in a mate, there is a consequence. In
this case, you have discovered a little post-divorce guilt that comes along
with someone who has recently divorced. This behavior is normal and your
boyfriend’s; "push back" is just his way of saving you the trouble of him being
a little inconsistent with his contact with you. Try not to take it personal,
but most men after divorce need a healthy combination of attention and space.
Now here is the bad news
Rachel; there is no exact time I can tell you when your man is ready to love
again. There are no "tell tale" signs that I can say will happen that turn a
divorced dad into a committed man in your relationship. The best advice I can
give you is to tell you that you do not control the "choice" of your partner.
You will have to accept him for all that he is, and all that he isn’t. Dating a
divorced Dad is different because it can give you all of the joys of life and
challenge you just the same. As long as you are emotionally supported and feel
loved; enjoy the journey with your new found love and "call him out" when you
feel that you are not on equal terms in your relationship.
Keep me posted.
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