How To Be a Better Dad: Working Through the Disagreements
How To Be a Better Dad is the fatherhood and co-parenting section on SingleDad. Share and exchange great fatherhood advice from our members who are in all stages of fatherhood. This month, learn about how to come to an agreement for your child’s schooling.
I have an 8 year old daughter with my ex, Sara. Our daughter was in a public school, but because of Covid is now having to do school from home. I think our daughter should stay with the school she is at and continue her learning, with her class. Sara has recently changed her mind and wants to now have her be homeschooled full time even when the school opens again. It has been an ongoing argument and we can’t seem to find a solution we both agree on.
Disagreements are something we cannot avoid at times. We all have different beliefs, opinions, and perceptions. The great thing you’re doing, David, is searching for a solution you and Sara can agree on. You both want what’s best for your daughter and keeping that in mind is extremely important. That reminder helps to remove our egos out of the conversation.
What could really help is setting up a date and time to meet up with Sara, without your daughter, and having a true conversation.
Make A List
You and Sara could each write down your pros and cons of your choice for your daughter’s education. Seeing this on paper may create a better understanding, a thought out decision, and open perspective for you both. You two will be able to see both sides.
What Does Your Daughter Want?
Before you and Sara make a decision, have either of you asked what your daughter would want? Without involving your own opinion. She does have a choice, no matter her age. She does have her friends, her teachers, and her own routine that she knows. She has her own wants and can know what she feels would be best for herself.
Meet with Sara and create that list. Listen to one another and keep in mind you both want what is best. Before making a decision though, talk to your daughter, without convincing her into what either of you think is best. Listen to her and show her the same respect. Your daughter feeling she can stand for what she wants will make it easier for her to be honest with you both. For now, about her schooling and later on throughout her life.
Got Kids? Need Fatherhood or Single Parent Advice?
Do you have a Post Divorce, Single Parenting or Fatherhood question you want to ask, send us an email with your question to: Parenting@SingleDad.com or CLICK HERE and fill out our form. We will address and post your question to our readers and will maintain your privacy.