How To Be a Better Dad: Playing Both Roles 

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How To Be a Better Dad: Playing Both Roles 

How To Be a Better Dad is the fatherhood and co-parenting section on SingleDad. Share and exchange great fatherhood advice from our members who are in all stages of fatherhood. Today learn about how to play the role of mother and father. 

Dear SingleDad, 

I had a baby with a woman who wants nothing to do with being a family. I find it extremely important for children to have a mother and father figure. How can I play both roles? I don’t want my child to be neglected in any way. 

-Sam, 31 

Sam, you sound like such an amazing father who is very mindful. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself though. You’re right, a man and a  woman both have wonderful qualities they each carry for different reasons. At the end of the day though, it’s all about being a human and taking away the gender roles. 

  • Only Human 

When I say it’s all about being a human, I mean us humans are emotional, conscious species. We all have beliefs, values, morals, and passions. You sound like you have all of those when it comes to parenting your child. When you ask how to play both roles, are you asking how can you provide maternal care? What does that mean to you? For most it means providing nurture, compassion, empathy. You do not have to be a mother to provide those things. You seem like you already have them and again, being human you would! 


  • Family Support 

Asking your family for support with parenting is completely okay. If you feel your mother or sister or grandmother could help, feel free to let them jump in! Ask for their advice or tips and tricks. 


  • Support Groups 

It’s a big responsibility to have children and doing it single creates a lot of worry. Having friends, family, therapy, and/or some kind of support group would be a big helping hand. We can’t do everything alone. Humans must have connection and can lean on one another, no matter what society makes us believe. 


You will do great raising your child and you already seem to be doing your very best. This article I hope can bring the support you are seeking. 


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