How To Be a Better Dad: Always Family
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Dear SingleDad,
I’ve been separated from my girlfriend for about a year now. We share 2 kids together. We want to keep things as normal as possible for our kids, so we still plan to take family vacations. Would that be confusing to the kids if we do that but not share the same home?
-Sam, 37
Thanks for writing to SingleDad with your question, Sam! It’s great you and your ex are aware when it’s time to move on, but still keep the focus on your children to make sure they have the best environment.
- Honesty With Your Children
I imagine you both have sat down with your children and explained why you two will no longer be sharing the same home. Suggesting family vacations (maybe together), explaining why you two want to, and asking how the children feel I think is the best way to go about it. To wonder if it’s normal or not all depends on how your children feel and how you and your ex now interact. Open communication will provide answers.
- Does It Work For You As A Family?
Once those conversations have happened and say everyone agreed to family vacations, then go for it! It is your family and it is with the best intentions. As long as it feels normal for you all, then there is no issue.
- My Own Opinion
I personally think as long as it works for your family, it’s extremely healthy for your children to see that the love doesn’t end. You two no longer fit well together as partners, but know how to put that aside for your children. Your children will see there does not need to be conflict, resentment, or sides to choose because you both are present.
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