What Do Daddies Do?

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I suppose the answer to the Daddy question has changed drastically over time. As recently as 30 years ago, the role of a typical father was much different than it is today.

It’s a beautiful Saturday morning and I have the opportunity to spend lots of time with my son. He hasn’t been sleeping on a long or consistent schedule for the past week so my wife and I are understandably tired. But I told her she could sleep in this morning and I would take care of his morning routine.

I ate breakfast and stole occasional glances at the comics, while we watched a Baby Einstein DVD. Strangely, it was Family Circus, Baby Blues, and Zits that got me thinking about Dads. In Family Circus, little Billy was talking about changing the clocks for Daylight Savings Time (a ridiculous concept), Baby Blues showed Dad having the change a tire because his daughter found those "nails we thought I lost" in the driveway, and Zits showed Mom bringing groceries into the house while her lazy teenage son yelled downstairs to see if Mom needed any help.

And as I read these, it got me thinking about a question little Zoey might ask her Dad (or Mom) as he changed the tire. "What do Daddys do?" For children with a stay-at-home Mom, this could be a very poignant question. They see Mom all day. Feeding them, cleaning them, cleaning the house, doing laundry, running errands, etc. But when Dad comes home, he probably spends some time with the family, they eat dinner, perhaps watch a show or two, maybe he does some work he brought home, and then its off to bed for junior. It takes many years for children to understand that things occur while they’re not looking. Single Dads probably don’t encounter this question very often, but might get asked "what do Mommys do".

I suppose the answer to the Daddy question has changed drastically over time. As recently as 30 years ago, the role of a typical father was much different than it is today. They were less involved in caring for the child and they never went in to the delivery room. But 30 years ago was substantially different than 50 years ago in which Moms rarely worked and Leave It To Beaver was the role model family.

Now we build the first decade of the 21st century and the Western world continues to change. Both parents work in most families, media dominates much more of the time spent for both adults and children and influences many more decisions. Family shapes, members, and laws have drastically departed from historical norms.

Perhaps the universal answer to the question is, "whatever they feel is best". Each Dad, family, and society makes choices they feel are best for them. If that means a working Dad, a stay-at-home Dad, two Dads, or a military Dad, each of us makes the choice. And that choice should always be made with the best interest of the child in mind, but that isn’t always the case (or the option).

So now its your turn to answer. "What do Daddies do?"

Richard JaramilloRichard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
“Make Life Happen…Again!”

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Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com, a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children. RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents “Make Life Happen…Again!”