Protecting Child Custody Rights for Single Dads

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Divorce is not an easy thing for anyone and for the many people it affects divorce can be the toughest battle they will ever face. The best way for you to ensure your rights with your children after your divorce is to record everything.

Divorce and Child Custody

Divorce is not an easy thing for anyone and for the many people it affects divorce can be the toughest battle they will ever face. Besides losing the love of your life you will now have to face losing your money, your home and toughest of all your children. Unfortunately when children are involved the effects of a divorce will last for many years. Child custody issues can be one of the most emotionally draining experiences of a person’s life. This type of issue affects everyone involved and needs to be handled with great care.

The reality is this: facts count, love walks. Oftentimes when a child custody case finds its way into court the judge is hit with a barrage of "he said, she said" accusations that get thrown back and forth by each parent in an attempt to get their way. The soon to be expartners will often go to great lengths to prove the other to be an unfit primary parent. Unfortunately these accusations are often made falsely and are not always in the best interest of the children.

During the preliminary stages of your divorce is a good time for you to show your involvement with your children so that you can set up the best parenting plan. Know your children’s schedule with school functions and activities, keep track of any medical needs your children might have and be sure to include yourself in any of those activities such as taking the children to the dentist or scheduling their doctor’s appointments if they are sick.

Once the parenting plan is in place, it is important to take the initiative to enforce your parenting plan and make sure your ex-spouse is aware that you intend to be with your children. Your ex-spouse may get remarried or decide she wants to move to another location, which can throw a wrench into your plan forcing you to go back to court to fight the battle all over again. You want to make sure your rights are being respected and your ex spouse is taking her responsibilities seriously.

Collecting the Facts

The best way for you to ensure your rights with your children after your divorce is to record everything. Take notes of any activities you do with your children and all expenses you pay for their support. Make a note of all the times you are supposed to be with your children as well as when and where you will be picking them up or dropping them off. Anytime that your ex-spouse is late or behaves irresponsibly with your children be sure to properly keep track of it.

A very common scenario we hear all of the time involves the exchange of the children between the two parents. One parent is on time at the specified location to drop off the children but the other parent is late. The plan is for you to meet up at 11:00 am, it is 11:30 am and she is still not there. After several instances of this it becomes obvious that she does not respect your rights nor is she being considerate of the children. In this particular scenario the best thing to do is record the event as it is happening. Take a picture of you and the children at the specified location, make a note of the time and day as well as indicating the number of times this same thing has happened. To avoid any he said, she said arguments when you meet in court to address this issue, you’ll want to be sure to keep your records in a safe place so you will have the evidence you need when you need it to prove of your case in court.

Storing Your Evidence

The best way to ensure your custody with your children is to keep a good record of your ex-spouses behavior and to prove yourself to be a fit parent by keeping an accurate journal and securely storing any information that has to do with your children. Below is a chart identifying the benefits of using either a paper journal, storing your important files electronically on an electronic device, online service or securing your information with the EVDense Digital Diary (EVD DD).

Chart Category Definitions

Paper Journal: a book for entering personal information and keeping a record of any events as they happen.

Electronic Device (computer or memory): A localized electronic device for the creation or storage of electronic files.

Online Service (email or document storage): A service for storing and retrieving information via online access.

EVDense Digital Diary: A specialized online legal service for the collection and storage of electronic files to be used as evidence.

Evidence Collection Chart

PaperJournal Electronic Device Online Service EVD DD
Journaling x x x x
Therapeutic attributes x x x x
Ease of use and access x x x x
Commentary x x x x
Organize files x x x x
Time/Date stamp x x x x
Electronic files x x x
Audio/video files x x x
Password protection x x x
Chronological order x x x
Mobile phone access x x
Independent 3rd party x x
Attorney access x x
Secure authentication x
Visual timeline display x
Non-editable files x
Certification of files x
Validation of files x
Information as evidence x
Expert witnesses x


How EVDense Digital Dairy Helps Single Dads

EVD DD is a secure online service you can use to collect your most important information in a way that protects you. With the ability to time and date stamp all of the files you store in the EVD DD, you can easily provide your information for your attorney to use as evidence in your case. EVD DD has a unique timeline view that lets you view all of your files in a very organized way making it easy for you to recollect any of the information you have stored to corroborate your story and win your case in court.

EVDense is a third party service holding your information is escrow. EVD DD gives you the best way to certify that all of the information you store is authentic and has not been altered or changed since the day it was stored. By allowing the other party to validate your files with EVDense you can rest assured that no one will be able to dispute the validity of your information.

3 important things about the EVDense Digital Diary

  1. Court Presentable Facts: Evidence that has not been manipulated.
  2. Chronological Documentation: Your attorney will request all your evidence organized in a chronological order.
  3. Credibility of Evidence: Evidence captured when it happens, what you see, hear and feel, so that it is real, because the longer you wait the effectiveness of this evidence diminishes.

It is important that you track everything that has to do with you and your children whether it is in a paper diary, stored on your computer or with a service like EVDense. The information you keep will help you through each stage of your divorce and ensure that your rights with your children will be protected. Don’t wait until it is too late. Begin collecting the information you need now to protect yourself today.

EVDense Corporation

“Facts Count.” The EVDense Digital Diary (DD) is a secure, time stamped document storage service for collecting evidence. EVDense DD gives you the most effective way to provide court presentable facts in chronological documentation that is credible evidence. You can store any type of electronic files such as Word, PDF, Email, Voicemail, etc. EVDense Corporation, a legal technology company and maker of the EVDense DD, also provides software services and legal consulting for Fortune 500 companies, and with its legal expertise advises trial court judges in the admission of electronically stored information to the courts. For more information call us at 206.653.0200 or email to info@evdense.com. Website: www.evdense.com

Richard JaramilloRichard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com,
a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children.
RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents
“Make Life Happen…Again!”

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Richard “RJ” Jaramillo, is the Founder of SingleDad.com, a website and social media resource dedicated to single parenting and specifically for the newly divorced, re-married, widowed and single Father with children. RJ is self employed, entrepreneur living in San Diego and a father of three children. The mission of SingleDad is to help the community of Single Parents “Make Life Happen…Again!”